Tantrums are something all parents have to deal with at different stages in their child’s development. These are some tips for dealing with tantrums in children aged 12 months and older.
The development of tantrums in a 1-year-old child?
A baby’s cry is a way to communicate his needs. After 12months a process of autonomy slowly starts and our baby, no longer being so, attempts to assert her wishes and her preferences beyond hers. You may also want to know how to deal with 3 year old tantrums?
It is important to understand what the moment of development is like for a child to better understand this crucial stage. A baby becomes a child in the first 12 months of his/her life. These children are capable of, among others,
- Walking will allow him to be independent and explore as much as possible.
- Use different methods to explore objects (shake them, hit them or throw them).
- You can either start to feed yourself by using your hands or a spoon.
- Look in the direction of the illustration when a thing is named.
- Pull or pull someone to show them something.
- Follow the simple instructions to pick up your toy.
- Replicates daily activities such as brushing your teeth or combing your hair.
- Can understand when you ask for something simple.
- Cries when mom/dad leaves.
- Favorite people and things.
What are the most common causes of tantrums in this age group?
Parents may believe that tantrums at this stage are an attempt to challenge them. However, as we’ve seen, it is the first step towards independence. Tantrums are a manifestation of their first desire to satisfy their needs. As they develop their tolerance for frustration, they become healthier and allow us to set the limits.
What are the most common reasons that one-year-olds throw tantrums?
- They are willing to do things that are not permitted.
- They are eager to do things they don’t know how to do.
- And, they can’t express their desires or needs ( language design often reduces tantrums).
- They feel sick (it could be they are tired or it could be something else).
- Also, they don’t get the attention that they desire.
- Some children may also experience tantrums due to diaper changes.
How can I handle a tantrum in this age group?
We now know more about why our 1-year-old son might throw tantrums.
- Be ready for the sensitive moments
Tantrums are more common in children who are tired or hyperstimulated. We can anticipate the circumstances that could lead to a tantrum and help our child avoid them. We can also avoid taking him shopping if we know he hasn’t had a snack or a nap, etc. - Let children forget what makes them mad
Distractions can be a great way to distract your child at this age. - Support him and go with
You should not ask your child to stop throwing his hands in the door or throwing tantrums. Instead, you can go ahead and grab it yourself. - Be calm, but firm in pointing out bad behavior
If he is aggressive, such as biting, hitting, or throwing objects, you should be firm and tell him that this behavior is unacceptable. - Let him cry
We can sometimes give in to his demands, but he won’t cry. He will cry to express his frustration, but if you don’t react too strongly, he’ll likely be distracted by something else within a few minutes. Do not use humiliating phrases like “crying is for girls” at any time. - DO NOT give complicated explanations
They can’t understand why a command is given at their age. Keep the explanation of the tantrum simple. - DO NOT try to physically restrain
He will not be able to calm down if he is being held or hugged. - Keep calm
If you feel like the tantrum is going on forever, and you are losing patience with it, you can take turns with an adult to help you manage it while you take a break.
